For must of us mere mortal Souls that inhabit this planet, disappointment in life is a certain and painful experience. However, before we can experience true thoughts of compassion for others, we must first clean up our own homes. To do so, we must first comprehend the source of our own suffering or sense of loss or disappointment.
Desire is the Mother of Disappointment.
Disappointment arises when we fail to achieve or obtain whatever we had set our minds on.
A talented student in a college study course, for example, might be dissatisfied with a B grade; a less capable student, on the other hand, would be overjoyed with a B since they didn't expect to pass. The former can fear rejection from potential employers if they don't get good grades, while the latter would look for a better job because the pass scores were greater than expected.
As a result, a sensation of dissatisfaction varies depending on the person and the circumstance. This might refer to our spiritual aspirations or goals based on our social or family backgrounds.
Psychotherapist Frances Wilks claims in her book Intelligent Emotion that many of life's disappointments occur because we focus on the conclusion of an event rather than the process of getting there.
‘Rather than allowing the experience to simply be, we insist that it give us what we desire.'
We may join a club or organization that claims to teach one of many spiritual development strategies, but after a length of time, we have had no unusual experiences.
This sense of failure is exacerbated by the fact that the other members of the group look only too eager to share their own outcomes in detail.
We joined because we wanted to reach out and grasp that indefinable something, but no matter how hard we tried, we never got that bright flash of inspiration.
This is due to our energies being focused on the flash itself rather than the process of preparing to receive it. We demand that the outcomes be supplied along the lines of our own personal fantasy because we decide ahead of time what we want or expect from a circumstance.
‘We create all kinds of illusions and then become disappointed when they don't come true,' Frances Wilks observed.
As a consequence, we discard the lesson as a waste of time, and despite the fact that we are the ones rejecting, an element of failure lurks underneath the surface.
- Physical/mental: An acute sense of dissatisfaction.
- Emotional/psychological: Our self-esteem and confidence are harmed.
- Spiritual: The imagination couldn't hold a candle to the reality.
The end result amounts to an increasingly complete rejection of concepts on a more commonplace level that, if not dealt with consciously, might spiral out of proportion. We see it as our decision to go, which covers our regret that they don't want us there since our efforts weren't good enough.
Even if we are the ones rejecting, it may be motivated by a sense of personal rejection by the group (real or imagined); The ability to walk away may appear to be in our hands when it is not.
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